Starting over
08-21-08
OK, so here I am a year later. I am supposed to be 100 pounds lighter, but I am in the same place I was a year ago. It’s time to start over with new goals. I keep asking myself, “What is going to be different this year?” Life continues to get in the way of my health and I know it needs to stop. I lost over 25 pounds only to gain it back. Maybe 100 pounds in a year was overwhelming, maybe setting a more attainable goal of 50 pounds in a year is better. Seriously, if I lose 100 pounds in 2 years, that’s still pretty amazing and I will be where I want to be. Maybe I am too inpatient, perhaps too willing to settle for quick fixes instead of really doing what it takes to live a healthy lifestyle. So the journey begins again. I am done feeling sorry for myself, I am done beating myself up. I am going to erase this past year and start over. Today is the first day of the rest of my life… again!
Hey, just remember not to give up and keep on blogging. By losing over 25 pounds you at least know that you have it in you to lose the weight. You just need to keep focus and continue to change your habits. I think you acknowledge that its not going to happen over night but if you keep at it will happen. I would keep your goal at 100 pounds for the year. It’s better to have something bigger to aim at. If you just fall short of 100 pounds you will feel a lot better than if you only lose 50! Keep at it. Jessica
Thanks for your input and good advice Jessica. The thing is that I get very discouraged when I set a goal and don’t meet it. I love to get ahead and smash any goal that I make, but when I can’t accomplish what I set out to do, that’s when it is easiest for me to give up. In addition to that, I have come to a realization the my lifestyle is not easily transformed into a healthy lifestyle. To shift it drastically doesn’t seem possible at this point in my life, but to shift it enough to lose 50 lbs in a year, I think that’s doable. The same idea applies here. If I set myself up for failure, I am sure to fail, but if I set myself up to succeed in every possible way, I can get the first 50 under my belt ASAP and then go for the second 50. When I look back on this year, I think I put unrealistic expectations on myself and with everything I am doing, I need to cut myself a little slack. It truly makes me sick and very disappointed in myself that I have failed so miserably in this area of my life… again. I’m not sure what another failure would do to me and I don’t want to find out. I hope this explains where I am coming from at least a little bit. Thanks again for your input and advice.
todd
I too have the big goal in my mind, but I’ve set smaller goals to get there. Then you know if you are on track or need to kick it up a notch to make the next goal.
BTW, welcome back!
Thanks bro!
I take setbacks very hard, too, so I know exactly where you’re coming from. I’m feeling very discouraged right now, but that’s what impatience and disappointment do to me. So, I think slowing down, and making more gradual changes, makes a lot of sense — reasonable expectations. etc. And, now that I think of it, a lot of fitness blogs aren’t written for where I am in my weight loss, so I need to not let them contribute to too great a sense of urgency.
Sounds like we are in the same boat. I really want to be healthy and to lose weight, but it is hard to decide what to sacrifice to do it. I don’t have any free time so it is going to take sacrifice. Since I work too many hours anyway, I think that is what i will sacrifice. It is just a matter of figuring out how to do that. Nothing good comes free! Good luck and we will get through this together! I know what it is like to be discouraged and very rarely does that lead to progress. I am trying to find ways to get past that, but it sure isn’t easy. let me know if I can help you in any way!